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Sigh

Not a bad day, exactly, I'm just tired. I hit myself in the face with my car door this morning. (I'm not quite sure how I did this, so I won't try to explain.) I have a vivid, dark red, clotted-over gash to the left of my upper lip where a piece of skin tore off.

I've realized I'm not sure of the protocol when dealing with an acquaintance who has a new, visible injury. Do you ask (because you're supposed to take an interest in their well-being) or do you ignore it (since you don't want to make them self-conscious, or be nosy)?

I wouldn't ask a stranger on the elevator how they got that giant bruise (unless they looked like they needed medical attention). What's the rule for people you know?

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capemaynuts
Jun. 17th, 2009 06:38 am (UTC)
If its someone you know on a first name basis, I'd ask. Asking shows that you care about the person. Of course, depending on the relationship, I might ask in a kidding manner such as "What did you do to yourself?" or "What's the other guy look like?" But more likely I'd just ask what happened and are they alright?
np_complete
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:44 am (UTC)
If its someone you know on a first name basis, I'd ask. Asking shows that you care about the person.

Yes. I was hoping someone would ask. But, because it was on my face, I think people were afraid the answer would be something embarassing, like a wart removed or a zit broken open. If it had been a bruise or a bandage, people would probably have asked.
capemaynuts
Jun. 18th, 2009 02:07 am (UTC)
Is it possible its not quite as big and as noticible as you think? Maybe it does just look like a bad pimple?
Ida
np_complete
Jun. 19th, 2009 03:04 am (UTC)
Is it possible its not quite as big and as noticible as you think? Maybe it does just look like a bad pimple?

I'm pretty sure it does look like a bad pimple. And maybe it's the years of acne I endured before taking Accutane at 20, but I'd prefer to look wounded than pimpled.

Tuesday I hit myself in the face; last night, I had a vivid dream and fell out of the bed. I'm having sort of a bad week, I guess!

jlrpuck
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:00 am (UTC)
Bit late to the game (stupid RL), but I think I'd probably say--clearly in a lighthearted manner--"Rough morning, eh?" That let's the person talk about it if they want, or laugh it off/give me the glare of death if they don't.

Hope your day improved!
np_complete
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:39 am (UTC)
I think I'd probably say--clearly in a lighthearted manner--"Rough morning, eh?" That let's the person talk about it if they want, or laugh it off/give me the glare of death if they don't.

That seems like a good compromise. It depends on the nature and location of the injury, too, as I was saying to kalleah, below.
kalleah
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:16 am (UTC)
Ouch. That smarts.

I'm inclined to err on the side of being tactful about the injury and not saying anything. Of course, this is me, and I spent a terrible few days once being told I had something on my nose after I had a small cyst removed. I heard all the dang jokes. Boo.
np_complete
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:35 am (UTC)
I'm inclined to err on the side of being tactful about the injury and not saying anything.

I think the protocol for injuries on the face is different from the body. Something that might be a zit gone terribly awry or a shaving cut gets politely ignored, mostly. (Boo! to those people who made fun of you!) I remember when I skinned the back of my wrist once, people thought it looked like a second- or third-degree burn and asked about it.

I think it's different if you have a bandage than if you have a wound, too. (Once the wound is no longer bleeding, anyway!) People ask about bandages more than scabs and scars.
kalleah
Jun. 18th, 2009 01:36 am (UTC)
Yeah -- that makes sense about the face. I'll completely ask someone about a cast or crutches, for example.
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