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Jewelry interpretation question

I've been buying myself small bits of jewelry lately, exploring the possibilities, and I'm considering ordering some rings from a certain vendor. There would be three of them, sterling silver, with cabochon stones in a gold bezel. For a picture of what this would look like, see here. The stones would be blue topaz, peridot, and citrine.

My question to you folks: I'm deciding what finger to have them fitted for. I would wear them on my right hand. (I don't wear anything on my left hand.) But should I wear them on the fourth or fifth (or maybe third?) finger? I might wear them all together, or two, or one.

The real question: if I wore one or two on the fourth finger (of my *right* hand, mind) would it look like a committed-relationship symbol? I would have said not, especially since my left hand is ringless, but some people have said that it would.

What are your thoughts?

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platypus
May. 18th, 2009 02:02 am (UTC)
I wouldn't make any assumptions about rings on the right hand, especially if none of them were a big diamond solitaire. The rings you linked are pretty but don't look like relationship signifiers. I know some of my single coworkers wear rings on their right hands in variable places and I don't think they shy away from using the fourth finger. I know that in some cultures wedding rings are on the right hand, so I suppose you can't guarantee everyone's interpretation, but that's probably true of life in general. Are you more concerned about propriety, or accidentally warning somebody off? :) I think you're pretty safe, regardless.
np_complete
May. 19th, 2009 07:31 am (UTC)
I wouldn't make any assumptions about rings on the right hand, especially if none of them were a big diamond solitaire.

That was my feeling.

Are you more concerned about propriety, or accidentally warning somebody off? :)

My mother the person who objected to the fourth finger was mostly concerned with accidentally warning people off. (It was a concern of mine, too, I'll admit. :) )
platypus
May. 19th, 2009 02:09 pm (UTC)
I was looking at the rings again -- there are some very pretty ones there, I may buy one or two myself! I never used to wear rings, and doubted I could even get used to one, but now that I have, I think I could tolerate one on the right hand occasionally too.
np_complete
May. 20th, 2009 12:59 am (UTC)
I have big cello-player hands, so it's hard to find rings that fit. That was why the fact that these are custom-made was appealing. And they are very pretty!
earlgreytea68
May. 18th, 2009 02:23 am (UTC)
Hmm. I *always* wear my rings on the fourth finger of my right hand. It's the proper "ring" finger, theoretically, and I always thought it didn't have the connotation that the left ring finger has.
np_complete
May. 19th, 2009 07:32 am (UTC)
Hmm. I *always* wear my rings on the fourth finger of my right hand. It's the proper "ring" finger, theoretically, and I always thought it didn't have the connotation that the left ring finger has.

I thought so, too. As platypus says, you can't guarantee everyone's interpretation, but I thought it was a general rule.
(Anonymous)
May. 19th, 2009 12:58 pm (UTC)
The only problem with wearing a ring on your right hand ring finger can be construed as being in a deeply commited same-sex relationship. (See The Bonesetter's Daughter by Amy Tan.) If it's with a stone, though, you should be fine.
np_complete
May. 20th, 2009 01:00 am (UTC)
he only problem with wearing a ring on your right hand ring finger can be construed as being in a deeply commited same-sex relationship.

This was the sort of thing that I was concerned about -- that there was a tradition involving rings on the right ring finger that I was unaware of. Thanks for the information!
kalleah
May. 20th, 2009 12:06 am (UTC)
The moonstone ring is lovely. As for where to wear a ring -- well, I am right handed and I cannot abide wearing a ring on that hand. I have two that I wear on my left, one being my wedding band on my fourth finger and one on my middle finger. First, see what's comfortable, and then, I think you're reasonably safe from most misinterpretations if you avoid the left ring finger.
np_complete
May. 20th, 2009 01:04 am (UTC)
My hands are big, so rings to fit me have always had to be resized or custom-made. I haven't worn a ring regularly in years. Perhaps I should buy one ring, and see if I wear it and whether it gets caught on things, and then buy the others.
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