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That's a turn-up for the books

Well.

F. has left me for someone else.
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When he told me (just now, over the phone) I was so relieved I laughed out loud.

I'm happy about it, and for him.

Wow.

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wickedgillie
Nov. 10th, 2013 04:33 pm (UTC)
Well. That's sorted, then. Onward and upward!

(although I'm sneaking a hug in all the same)
np_complete
Nov. 11th, 2013 10:59 pm (UTC)
No looking back!

I find the whole situation hilarious.
wickedgillie
Nov. 11th, 2013 11:04 pm (UTC)
I'm glad.
nonelvis
Nov. 10th, 2013 06:23 pm (UTC)
I would say I'm sorry things are over, but you sound happy about it, so good for you! May whoever's next be the right one for you.
np_complete
Nov. 12th, 2013 01:14 am (UTC)
I keep waiting for some kind of grief or sense of loss to hit me ... but it hasn't yet.
earlgreytea68
Nov. 10th, 2013 07:08 pm (UTC)
You seem happy, so I am therefore happy in response!
np_complete
Nov. 12th, 2013 01:15 am (UTC)
I admit that my response somewhat defies logic!
glory_jean
Nov. 10th, 2013 09:11 pm (UTC)
Wow.

But this is a good thing if all you felt was relief. I'm glad for you that all the uncertainty is over.
np_complete
Nov. 12th, 2013 01:17 am (UTC)
Yeah, all I have felt so far is relief and other positive emotions. This wasn't something I caused, wasn't something I could have prevented, and isn't something I can do anything about, so I have no responsibility for this outcome at all. That is a great relief.
lolaraincoat
Nov. 10th, 2013 11:23 pm (UTC)
I'm glad for you. As for him, well, I know he's your friend and all, so in the unlikely event that I ever meet him, I will try very hard not to pop him in the nose.
np_complete
Nov. 12th, 2013 01:18 am (UTC)
It's all absurd, I know. It's nice not to have to squelch doubts and then worry about them anyway, anymore.
lolaraincoat
Nov. 12th, 2013 01:27 am (UTC)
Plus it sounds like there's a story there, which is always good, having a story. (And anytime you want to tell it, I am AGOG.)
np_complete
Nov. 12th, 2013 02:35 am (UTC)
Story?
lolaraincoat
Nov. 12th, 2013 02:43 am (UTC)
Well yeah! Where did he find this other person? Who is this other person? How did this phone call go down? What did he say when you laughed? Story!
np_complete
Nov. 14th, 2013 12:14 am (UTC)
He met her at a United Church of Christ event last Spring, because he was doing research for a comparative religion course he was going to be teaching. They struck up a conversation and then went to a Sikh temple in Minneapolis together.

She's probably about our age, is a uterine cancer survivor, is separated but not divorced, has college-aged kids, and left the Baptist faith at the same time she left her husband. She's going back to school part-time and works part-time, I think.

They've been bicycling together a lot, apparently, and since he hasn't been working this fall, he's had plenty of time to spend with her.

He says he told me about meeting her, but I said, "No. If you'd told me you had a new friend who had cancer, I'd have remembered that and asked after her in subsequent conversations. You didn't tell me."

I hope for her sake that it all works out.

The phone call -- well, if you didn't know I'd been struggling with doubt, you'd have found it surreal, because I was as generous as it's possible to be, offering him additional rationalizations for breaking up with me, and wishing him well. When I laughed, I immediately apologized, and he said, "No - I'd much rather you were laughing about it!"

"I'm a very nice person," I reminded him. "Oh, you are, you are!" he said.

lolaraincoat
Nov. 14th, 2013 01:16 am (UTC)
There you go! That is an amazing story! It has religion and cancer and bicycles! And oh that poor woman, she has so much to deal with already, yikes.

And you are, indeed, an extremely nice person. We just need to find you someone worthy of your niceness.
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